“5 Signs You’ve Made Your Partner Your World.”(Because it is NOT a good thing.)#FallInLoveFriday with #CoachAileenSantos
Everyone agrees that “good communication skills” are necessary for better relationships.
But what does that really mean?
Here are 3 insights to help you get started… so you can build better relationships of your own. ❤
In my years of coaching I have come across singles who tell me they’ve been “single since birth.”
Sometimes the women say they’re “NBSB” (no boyfriend since birth), or the men will say they’re NGSB (no girlfriend since birth).
Either way, what they’re doing is this: They’re giving themselves a label that has nothing to do with how wonderful they are.
Here some of the tips I want to share with these wonderful singles:
Your early teenage years
are for you to discover who you are,
and deciding exactly how
you’re going to change the world.
The years that come afterwards
are for you to start going after your dreams,
and recognizing the person
who’s going to support you,
as he pursues his own dreams, too.
Most problems happen
when you cling to someone too soon:
Your identity becomes “being his girlfriend,”
and your only dream becomes
“to stay with him.”
It’s a very difficult thing:
trying to rediscover yourself
when you never knew who you are.
It’s even harder to let go of a dream
that doesn’t work out,
it was the only one you had.
The reality is that you can never produce a relationship instantly out of thin air.
…and that’s why you need to start by simply connecting with people.
So here are some connection tips for singles, from Relationship Coach Aileen Santos.
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So last week I helped the women understand that there’s a huge difference between their “Husband Checklist” and their “Boyfriend Checklist.”
And the guys asked for their turn. 😉
So here it is, folks!
Lots of tips in this episode of #FallInLoveFriday, including:
- The reason why these “checklists” can help you have more satisfying love lives,
- Insights into why it helps for men to have more clarity about who to pursue, and
- The 5 important things that need to be included in your Girlfriend Checklist. 😉
Enjoy, learn, and apply!
And yes, do click “share” and help more people create love in their lives.
The Boyfriend Checklist is for deciding on a boyfriend.
This is different from the Husband Checklist, which you only bring out when — you guessed it — you’re deciding if a current boyfriend is someone who could be your husband.
Basic, right? 😉
Anyway, here are the 5 things you need to know about a guy, so you would know if he’s good Boyfriend Material.
Enjoy, learn, and share.
I feel this is an important episode in #FallInLoveFriday.
These past weeks I had been noticing a growing trend — particularly among Gen Z and Millennial couples — where they are experiencing toxic behaviors in their relationship…
…and actually mistake them as “romantic.”
Here is an example:
Girl tells guy: “I forbid you from going to your best friend’s bachelor party.”
Either one of them might think “it’s so cute that she gets jealous & protective.” And some people might also think: “I’ll forbid my partner from doing that, too.”
But this is what’s really happening:
- She’s sending him the clear message that she does not trust his decisions / actions when he’s not with her.
- She does not think highly of his friends.
- She is keeping him from being part of an important event in his best friend’s life, and
- Their relationship seems based on a “struggle for control,” and in this instance she particularly wants to “win.”
Yes, there is a very fine line between “controlling” and “influencing.” AND this is just one of the potential signs of toxicity in a relationship.
Find out all the 5 signs in this video now.
BTW here’s the good news:
When you finally know what’s wrong, you also reclaim your ability to make things right.
YES, please do share this video with people who can benefit from knowing these love lessons from Coach Aileen.