In my years of coaching I have come across singles who tell me they’ve been “single since birth.”
Sometimes the women say they’re “NBSB” (no boyfriend since birth), or the men will say they’re NGSB (no girlfriend since birth).
Either way, what they’re doing is this: They’re giving themselves a label that has nothing to do with how wonderful they are.
Here some of the tips I want to share with these wonderful singles:
Your early teenage years
are for you to discover who you are,
and deciding exactly how
you’re going to change the world.
The years that come afterwards
are for you to start going after your dreams,
and recognizing the person
who’s going to support you,
as he pursues his own dreams, too.
Most problems happen
when you cling to someone too soon:
Your identity becomes “being his girlfriend,”
and your only dream becomes
“to stay with him.”
It’s a very difficult thing:
trying to rediscover yourself
when you never knew who you are.
It’s even harder to let go of a dream
that doesn’t work out,
it was the only one you had.
– Coach Aileen Santos
People know me now as a Relationship Coach and Romance Author, someone who helps people enjoy better love stories In Real Life.
But back when I was a teenager, my own love story started out with a very interesting twist.
This is what happened…
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Guys ask: “When is the right time to pursue a girl?”
In this episode of #fallinlovefriday relationship #coachaileensantos gives you 5 guidelines, including:
- the 3 things guys need to assess about themselves, and
- the 2 things they need to check about the girl.
While there really are no guarantees in love or in life, we can still increase our chances of success by doing the things that work.
Hope you find these insights helpful!
And yes, please share this with friends who might benefit from the lessons, too.
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“What if I seem to be no one’s type?”
In this episode of #FallInLoveFriday, #CoachAileenSantos gives men:
- 3 insights into what makes men ask this question,
- practical things they should start doing / realizing now to improve their dating situation, AND
- 3 more actionable tips on how dating (for men) is like being in Sales… and what they can do to succeed. 😉
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This is actually for anyone who’s ever wondered how they can “move on” from a bad relationship or experience.
Dear hearts, here’s a truth:
Yes, it may be their fault that they hurt you.
But it’s your responsibility
to heal your own heart
and decide to be happy again.
– Coach Aileen Santos
Will Smith: Fault vs Responsibility
If you’re single and you know you want to be in a happy relationship of your own, then you need to make it a point to meet more people.
Not just “people,” but “people who have the potential to be more in your life.”
Here’s our video lesson about this:
#FallInLoveFriday Episode: How to Meet More Potentials in 2018
Let me know what you get out of this lesson, and share with others!
Someone once asked me:
“What do you think is the most common obstacle people need to overcome to grow happy relationships?”
And my answer was: “Their past.”
Let me explain:
Whenever we’re faced with a new possibility, our past often has us automatically asking the same questions:
“What if he doesn’t like me? What if he likes me too much? What if he doesn’t call? What if this is just another one-date-wonder? What if he breaks my heart? What if he’s just like all the other guys…?”
Before a relationship even starts, we spray it with negative what ifs…
The thing is, we often forget that we can always ask the positive what ifs just as easily.
What if you he falls in love with exactly who you are?
What if everything you experienced in the past has prepared you for Real Love in 2018?
What if you can grow your awareness & relationship skills to truly develop a lasting relationship this year?
What if this is the year when the love you only dreamed about becomes a daily reality for your life?
Ask the better “what ifs”
and act on them.
It takes you as much time and energy as your old way of doing things… and what if this way works much, much better?
Coach Aileen Santos