Tips for Singles from Relationship Coach Aileen Santos

In my years of coaching I have come across singles who tell me they’ve been “single since birth.”

Sometimes the women say they’re “NBSB” (no boyfriend since birth), or the men will say they’re NGSB (no girlfriend since birth).

Either way, what they’re doing is this: They’re giving themselves a label that has nothing to do with how wonderful they are.

Here some of the tips I want to share with these wonderful singles:

How Do I Know If He / She Is “The One”?

“How Do I Know if He/She is The One?”

In this episode of #FallInLoveFriday, #CoachAileenSantos shares with you:

  • The bad news (and good news!) about Soul Mates and “The One,”
  • The 3 minimum requirements you need from any partner (a.k.a. basic foundations for “The One,”) and
  • *mHow to figure out your own 3 Non Negotiables to better guide you in choosing “The One” for you.

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Guys Ask: “What if I seem to be no one’s type?”

Guys Ask:
“What if I seem to be no one’s type?”

In this episode of #FallInLoveFriday, #CoachAileenSantos gives men:

  • 3 insights into what makes men ask this question,
  • practical things they should start doing / realizing now to improve their dating situation, AND
  • 3 more actionable tips on how dating (for men) is like being in Sales… and what they can do to succeed. 😉

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5 Tips for New Relationships

It’s been said that “you cannot build a new house using old bricks,” and that is true.

Click on the video below for the five (5) things YOU need to remember

to help give your new relationship the best chance for growing into a lifelong kind of love. ❤️

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Five Tips for New Relationships

The Undefined Relationship: Should You Express How You Feel?

First off, let me try to define the “undefined relationship.”

It’s when you feel like you’re treating each other as more than friends, but neither of you are calling / labeling it “a relationship.”

It’s like an emotional limbo that makes you happy sometimes, but keeps you frustrated / insecure / confused most of the time.

In this video I talk about why this “undefined relationship” happens, and I share with you 3 things you can decide on /and take action on, so you can move forward with your life.

Watch it here:

The Undefined Relationship:

Should I Express My Feelings?

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How Do You “Move On?”

After a relationship ends, you actually go through 3 stages:

1. The Hurting Stage

Most relationships are “official.” Both partners know yet are in an exclusive relationship with each other, and act accordingly.

Some relationships are not: they’re based on a lot of assumption and expectation.

But when either ends, there is a common experience: the hurt.

Official relationships end with an actual break up. Non official ones can end with a sudden jolt, or a painfully slow fade.

Either way, the hurt you feel gives you a clear message: the other person has decided not to stay in your life.

2. The Decision to Move On

This second stage is what we’ll talk about in this video.

So many people have been asking me recently for advice on “how they can move on,” and this whole video is my answer.

And it’s good that they’re asking.

Because unless they get through this 2nd stage, they cannot reach the 3rd stage, which is…

3. The Healing Stage

Here you rebuild your self esteem. Rediscover who you are without a partner… and even learn to enjoy it again.

Here you learn the lessons of the past, and use those lessons to fuel your new future.

This is when you know you have a future love story to look forward to. And you’re actively co-writing it with God.

Fact is, there are no shortcuts 😦 and the only way to move past it
is to GO THROUGH it.

Still, I hope this #FallInLoveFriday episode helps you with the hard part:

“The Deciding to Move On.”

Share this video with your friends too, okay?

Coach Aileen Santos

365 Chances for Love 

Someone once asked me: 

“What do you think is the most common obstacle people need to overcome to grow happy relationships?” 

And my answer was: “Their past.” 
Let me explain: 

Whenever we’re faced with a new possibility, our past often has us automatically asking the same questions: 

“What if he doesn’t like me? What if he likes me too much? What if he doesn’t call? What if this is just another one-date-wonder? What if he breaks my heart? What if he’s just like all the other guys…?” 

Before a relationship even starts, we spray it with negative what ifs… 

The thing is, we often forget that we can always ask the positive what ifs just as easily. 

What if you he falls in love with exactly who you are? 

What if everything you experienced in the past has prepared you for Real Love in 2018? 

What if you can grow your awareness & relationship skills to truly develop a lasting relationship this year? 

What if this is the year when the love you only dreamed about becomes a daily reality for your life? 

🙂 

Ask the better “what ifs” 

and act on them. 
It takes you as much time and energy as your old way of doing things… and what if this way works much, much better? 
Love, 

Coach Aileen Santos