After a relationship ends, you actually go through 3 stages:
1. The Hurting Stage
Most relationships are “official.” Both partners know yet are in an exclusive relationship with each other, and act accordingly.
Some relationships are not: they’re based on a lot of assumption and expectation.
But when either ends, there is a common experience: the hurt.
Official relationships end with an actual break up. Non official ones can end with a sudden jolt, or a painfully slow fade.
Either way, the hurt you feel gives you a clear message: the other person has decided not to stay in your life.
2. The Decision to Move On
This second stage is what we’ll talk about in this video.
So many people have been asking me recently for advice on “how they can move on,” and this whole video is my answer.
And it’s good that they’re asking.
Because unless they get through this 2nd stage, they cannot reach the 3rd stage, which is…
3. The Healing Stage
Here you rebuild your self esteem. Rediscover who you are without a partner… and even learn to enjoy it again.
Here you learn the lessons of the past, and use those lessons to fuel your new future.
This is when you know you have a future love story to look forward to. And you’re actively co-writing it with God.
Fact is, there are no shortcuts 😦 and the only way to move past it
is to GO THROUGH it.
Still, I hope this #FallInLoveFriday episode helps you with the hard part:
“The Deciding to Move On.”
Share this video with your friends too, okay?
– Coach Aileen Santos